EDIN URJAN KUKAVICA Discomfort in Civilization

By Edin Urjan Kukavica

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It is rude to take your own intimacy out of the bedroom, pointless to parade it, and irritating to insist on certain rights based on one's sexual orientation, and all of it is extremely immoral and abnormal. Apartments, houses, rooms... used to be designated for intimacy – sometimes hotels, motels, business trips... and now, among other things, reality shows serve that purpose, from whose content sensitive viewers and children(!) are protected by codes and whatnot... From my perspective, intimacy is intimacy! designated for enjoyment – whatever that means for someone – and certainly not for taking it out on the street and parading it. And that would be about it, the whole story could end there, if it weren't for the disproportionate reactions to the initiative of about fifteen activists from Prijedor, Banja Luka, Sarajevo, Bijeljina, Tuzla to organize a Pride (parade of pride?!) in Sarajevo. The whole country reacted (everyone uninvited)... and it's not even known if it will be organized at all, so I'm a little 

Namely, the FBiH Government accepted the request to legalize same-sex marriages last October and initiated the Federal Ministry of Justice to enact a law on this matter. "The item was on the agenda and was adopted in the form in which it was proposed," confirmed the Prime Minister of FBiH, Fadil Novalić, emphasizing that we are "on the path to the EU. Everything we encounter on this path, we accept as a necessity." Some technicalities, such as registration in civil records, remained contentious, so the Government appointed an interdepartmental working group last year that analyzed regulations within which same-sex couples in a life partnership can exercise rights arising from the European Convention on Human Rights and Fundamental Freedoms, and proposed regulations to be enacted in the Federation of BiH. And that's that.

I mean, it should be.

Why do these young Muslims have a problem with gay people, but not with Chetniks?

Namely, when the Chetniks gathered in Višegrad back in March, to celebrate the arrest and successive execution of their leader with traditional calls for slaughter and rape (in front of his grotesque little statue, and at the base – under the feet – of a serious statue of the voivode)... I expected at least two or three cars of representative examples, say, those who promise to come to your door if you don't vote for SDA... to show up at the gathering and disperse the drunken brethren. But, to my and everyone's surprise, they didn't... True, two or three days later, they protested against the gathering of lesbians in Tuzla, so in that way, they saved themselves, preserved, and somewhat saved face...

The answer to the question: Why do Muslims have a problem with gay people, but not with Chetniks? ...however complicated it may seem at first glance, it is actually not... simply and in short, for the same reason they have a problem with mustaches but not with beards: they think one is haram, and the other is halal! And that's more or less clear to me... However, it is not clear to me – not even approximately – who SCH is that her private status from FB is considered news worthy of media treatment, why AS issues fatwas, not IZ, and what the SDA KO is doing in this whole story? ... And why are institutional believers and religious people not speaking out?

I don't remember us ever seeing anything remotely as fierce a reaction to any discovered theft, abusive behavior, murder(s), unjust and illegal privatization, abuse of position and budget funds, untraceable enrichment, a whole list of endangered and deprived and oppressed... or for example, for the failure to discover the murderers of DŽM, two police officers, murders at pedestrian crossings... ugh... it's hard to list even a part, let alone everything that has never been reacted to... and which is the result of a quarter-century of truly unfair and primitive politics and which should concern them greatly.

I understand that there is and always will be a dichotomy in the perception of rights: what we allow ourselves, we usually deny to others, or rather, we never grant others the right that we consider a right for ourselves. There you go... It is interesting, for example, that DČ never reacted / protested against the election or any other law as long as it suited him... that no one reacts to the non-implementation of any set of laws on determining the origin of property and confiscation of assets acquired through illegal acts... There is no official statement when MM asks who killed his child...

I know, people know, especially Muslims know – both old and young – that it is haram to be gay... and to be a lesbian is haram. But it is also haram to lie, it is haram to (s)teal even from the state, it is haram to cheat, it is haram to kill, it is haram to abuse one's position... True, such people do not parade in the streets, and they exercise their rights democratically, through political organizations, assemblies, parliaments, and governments... and they are very proud of it... 

So who is gay here?